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Summer Money Activities for Kids

May 21, 2013 by Average Joe 20 Comments

Shannon Ryan joined us to kick off the new Stacking Benjamins podcast yesterday, and we received a ton of great feedback and requests to “get this in writing.” So, we owe a big thank you to Shannon, who sent over her tips for us. If you missed the podcast, here are some great tips to help kids learn about money. Enjoy!

Summer is the perfect time to start talking to your kids about money as life is less structured, and you have more time to slow down and have these important conversations. And don’t worry–money conversations do not have to be boring! Position them correctly and you can have fun while teaching your kids good, life-long money habits.

1. Set Clear Goals and Make It Fun

Over a favorite family meal, we discuss how we’re going to use our family money in three areas – what will Save our money for; what will Spend our money on; and who will we Share our money with? If your children are older than 6, have them create their own summertime money goals. For example; Save–for a new bike; Spend–during a trip to the ice cream store; Share–with a local charity, such as the humane society where you can deliver your donation in person. Once your kids have their goals, help them find fun ways to earn money. For example, post jobs in the house, a lemonade stand, etc.

Fun Activity: Make goal-setting a fun event and your kids will no longer dread the word “goals”. Celebrate achievements and create friendly, sibling competitions on who can reach their goals first.

2. Slow Down and Have Regular Money Conversations

Some of my best money conversations with the girls happen during our normal activities. For example, take your kids shopping. Have them help you prepare the shopping list to create a clear understanding on what the family “needs” are and where “wants” fit in. At the store, be sure to talk through your purchases with your kids instead of making internal comparisons. For example, why you buy a name

brand vs a store brand for one item and not another.

Activity Idea: See how much money you can save on groceries for the summer. Make a list of needed items and search for coupons and specials. Use the money saved for something fun.

3. Make Your Goals Visual

Post family and individual goals where everyone can see them. You can cut out pictures from magazines or print pictures from the internet to create a vision board for your goals. Set up jars or envelopes for their Save, Spend and Share goals. When they earn money, discuss with them how they want to allocate their money towards their goals.

Activity Idea: Have you kids decorate their jars or envelopes with images of the things they plan to save, spend and share their money on or with.

4. Post Jobs so the Kids Learn How to Earn Money

I am not a believer in allowance, but I do believe you need to find a way to put money in your kids hands, so they can learn to make decisions around it. Each week create a job posting that consists of various chores that are important to running the house, but outside the children’s expected responsibilities (in our house, this includes–making beds, cleaning dishes and cleaning up after themselves).

Fun Activity: Weekly job postings allow kids to pick and choose which jobs they want to do. Plus, they can choose whether to do a lot (and earn a lot) or do little (and earn little). We treat this like a real job and on pay day, if they haven’t done their work to my satisfaction, they may not get paid. Or if they have gone above what the job entailed, they could earn bonus.

5. Let Them Flex Their Decision-Making Muscles!

We all have a finite amount of money, so the earlier you can teach your children to make wise choices with their money–the better! One of the best ways to teach them is to involve them in the decision-making process. You want them to figure out what makes them truly happy, rather

than listening to what others tell them they need. Once they master this, they will spend their money on the things they want and learn to create joy with any amount of money.

Fun Activity: Create an entertainment budget. Give your kids multiple options, some expensive and some not, then let them figure out how to use the money.

Photo: Mosieur J.

Shannon Ryan, CFP® is a Mom on a mission to help busy parents teach their kids simple, value-based principles that guide their money decisions and support their long-term financial well-being. Shannon wrote The Heavy Purse to help parents start money conversations with their children through a fun, bedtime story and developed companion workbooks to help deepen those conversations. Visit www.TheHeavyPurse.com to learn more on how to raise Money Smart Kids.

Budget Nightmares: What Are You Doing At 2 A.M.?

December 17, 2012 by Average Joe 40 Comments

When I left The Citadel (go Bulldogs!) to attend Michigan State (go Spartans!), I said goodbye to a lucrative track and cross country scholarship. I felt bad, but the writing was on the proverbial wall. My coach had given me “one more year” to run better at the end of year one, and I promptly pulled a quadricep muscle early into the fall campaign. I’d been a guy they thought was a (quoting the coach), “Diamond in the rough” anyway. Turns out I was pretty much just rough.

Immediately, I had money problems. My parents couldn’t afford to pay for MSU. I had this general notion that financial aid would cover everything. Imagine my bitterness when I found out that my dad made too much money to qualify for any need-based aid. My loan package quickly swelled as my first course of action was to get through school quickly. When I realized what a mess these loans would be, I made the tough decision to become a part time student working three jobs.

Here’s how I made that decision:

During one of my money woes, I tuned in to my favorite late night money talk show hosts on the radio: a guy named Bruce Williams. He sounded like that knowledgeable grandfather who’d give you either an arm around your shoulder or a swift kick in the butt. Maybe listening to him was the idea behind our podcast….I don’t know.

One night, drowning in my own debt and hopeless money situation, I heard a woman call in to the show. She and her husband both worked hard, but they weren’t making ends meet. Bills continually piled up and their reserves dwindled.

“What are you doing at 2 a.m.?” Bruce asked.

The woman stuttered. “What do you mean? We’re sleeping!”

“Why are you sleeping at 2 a.m. when your bills are getting further and further behind?”

The woman quickly answered, “We need all the sleep we can get so we work well at our job in the morning.”

Bruce sighed. “So you’re saying you need your job worse than your house and car? Then why don’t you sell your house or car?”

“I can’t sell my house or my car. Then I wouldn’t have any place to live!”

“My point exactly,” he said. “So, if you like your house and your car, what are you doing at 2 a.m.?”

“What are you getting at? I can’t do more than I’m doing.”

The radio host laughed. He had this chuckle that always sounded a little sad. “What I’m getting at is that you have serious money problems, but you don’t want to change anything. If you’re serious about solving your money problems, you’ll get a night job too, or you’ll find ways to make more money at your day job.”

The woman quickly interjected, “We’re both at the top of our pay scale. That’s why we need to hold on to these jobs.”

“You aren’t listening,” Bruce said. It was one of the few times I’ve ever heard him turning angry on the show. “You can’t work like you do, eat like you do and sleep like you do AND expect something to change.”

Unbelievably, she ranted at him. “I can’t believe this. I call you for serious advice and all you do is blame my job, blame my house, and blame me. We’re doing everything we can do and it isn’t getting any better.”

…and she hung up on him!

Maybe she wasn’t listening, but I sure was. I became a substitute paper boy and redoubled my efforts to advertise my disc jockey service better. I went around to fraternity houses and spoke directly with the social chairmen. I made mixed tapes with some cassettes I had laying around and brought them with me (that dates me, huh? I’m glad I didn’t say reel-to-reel tapes….). Later, I found out that my tapes were a hit around the school. More than that, extra money started to trickle into my hands, and my view of my financial situation changed.

Here’s what I learned:

I’m in charge of my financial destiny.
Sleep is overrated when you’re in over your head.
Financial planning is easy. It’s either an income problem or an expense problem. If you can’t fix one, you have to fix the other by default or the plan won’t work.

If you’re reading this because you’re in broke week (a term coined by my friend Michelle over at See Debt Run), you can either fix it once today and have to fix it again next month, or you can change your money earning skills or spending habits. For short term needs, you could borrow cash, but remember that this isn’t the final solution: it’s duct tape until you’re able to get on your feet.

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So You Want to Manage Your Own Money?

September 4, 2012 by Average Joe 29 Comments

A friend texted me this morning.

“We should talk soon. Julie is coming around to the idea of us managing our own money.”

It seems easy, right? My initial reaction to my friend was, “That’s awesome!” because it is. There are few things more satisfying than achieving your financial dreams and knowing that you climbed the money management mountain yourself.

No “money-god” came down and did it for you.

You didn’t need the Powerball numbers.

You actually plotted a financial course and landed safely at your destination.

For my friend, and for you if you’re about to embark on this journey, there’s good news and bad news: the good news is that it isn’t difficult to manage your own money.

The bad news is that to effectively manage your own money you’ll need to be ready to face some fairly difficult tasks.

Two Types of People

When I was a professional advisor, I’d meet some smart people who wanted to jump into their own money management and wanted an expert with an opinion to look over their shoulder, hold them accountable, and make sure they didn’t miss any “I” dotting or “T” crossing.

…and then there were other, often equally-smart people who wanted to hand it over to me and have someone else take care of it for them.

Believe it or not, most advisors I knew preferred the latter type of client and loathed the first one. Someone questioning their motives? Someone asking “why are we doing it this way?” all the time? That’s preposterous!

But if you’re going to ever learn how to manage your own money, you’ll need to be the first type, not the latter.

The steps aren’t difficult:

The Steps to Managing Your Own Money

My kids are reading myths in school. In the story of Hercules, he faces a series of challenges to achieve is goal.

I look remarkably like the guy on top, but I’m a little paler and not quite as naked. And I have less hair.

You’ll have a series of gauntlets in your way too, if you want to manage your own money.

1) Write out your goals. I’m not talking about writing:

Retirement

College

New Boat

Fall Deeper in Love

Real goal writing has a specific time, dollar amount and vision attached.

I want to be able to live on $65,000 per year (in today’s dollars) by age 65 without having to work every day. With this money I’d like to: (here you write your bucket list, which should include visiting every NASCAR track in the country).

That’s a goal you can shoot for and be excited about (except for visiting the track at Pocono, which I thought was pretty overrated).

2) Next, you write out all the hurdles in your way.

– I have $25,000 in credit card debt (separate by interest rate, term, amount)

– I have to put two children through college

– I know nothing about money management

3) Then, you find one of the nearly bazillion financial calculators online (you can use our powerful little PlanWise calculator here on the site!) and figure out how much you need to save to reach your goal.

– I need to save $250 per month to reach my dream if I achieve an 8% return.

Armed with your money management return information, now you figure out how to come up with $250 per month.

– Tweak your budget

– Pay down debt

– Take on more work

4) Before investing, though, you have a big problem. You have to insure yourself against some of the huge “what if’s” out there for you and your family:

What if you die?

What if you are disabled?

What if you have a car accident?

You’ll need to create a will and evaluate insurances.

5) Finally, you begin the heavy task of research to find investments that have historically achieved 8%.

No Step is Difficult, You Just Shouldn’t Miss One

As you can see, when you take on the hard task and decide to manage your own money, getting it right will be difficult. Each area demands time and energy:

– Planning, milestones and tracking

– Budget, income advancement and debt reduction

– Insurance need projection and comparison analysis

– Estate planning

– Investment allocation, picking and monitoring

These are five basic money management steps, but each packs a punch!

I Don’t Mean To Imply You Can’t Do It

As soon as I finish this piece I’m calling my buddy and talking him through these points. Before he takes on the task, he should know how long the financial security road really is. Going in with your eyes wide open is half the battle if you plan to win the “manage your own money” game.

He can do it, and so can you!

How to Date Your Bank

November 1, 2011 by Average Joe 4 Comments

Before I begin my joyous rant, I must comment that I’m sure there’s no correlation between the massive amount of chocolate I consumed last night and the sleepies I’m feeling today.

None at all.

But, even a bad case of sugar-low can’t stop me from doin’ my monkey dance after I saw the news that Bank of America is dropping their $5 debit card fee. Much like Netflix recently was forced to step back from plans to split their service, Bank of America miraculously realized that screwing their customers might not be in their best interest.

Better late than never.

Choosing a bank is a little like choosing a spouse. It’s a tough decision. You don’t just walk in one day and say, “Hey, bank, wanna tie the knot?” You’re going to be together in some capacity nearly every day, so it might be better to date for awhile.

My favorite banks are much like my spouse: intelligent and low maintenance.

But you don’t know that at first. I used to be a Bank of America customer. Bank of America was the pretty girlfriend who said all the right things until I found the cap off the toothpaste. Then she became the wicked Bank of the West. When I wanted to talk about the toothpaste, she disappeared behind a phone bank of polite service people who “didn’t do it.”

To get the best bank possible, you have to date. Play the field a little. Sew your wild oats. Introduce a few of your friends over to see how the New Bank acts around the family.

Here are a few of the qualities I look for when deciding on the perfect bank:

1) Fees. Banks have, among others, checkwriting fees, teller fees, debit card fees, wire transfer fees and overdraft fees. I want a complete fee schedule before deciding on a bank.

2) Convenience. Is it easy to deposit and withdraw money? How responsive is the bank if I have questions? I mentioned that Fidelity will allow me to use my smart phone to deposit checks. How much more sexy can it get than that?

3) Range of services. I want to know what online tools are available. I love online banking, so I’m going to wine and dine these features before settling on a mate. Budget tools are also important to me. I need to be able to easily track my expenses. Banks with robust budget tools are going to get a second look from me.

4) Statements. This might not be important to you. My spouse doesn’t care for online banking, and wants a statement mailed to us. It must be easy to read. I know what you’re thinking. We also have an abacus at home to help the children with their math homework. Call us the Flintstones.

5) Interest rates. Is there a fairly high interest rate money market? I don’t use CDs often, but are their rates competitive? Use resources such as www.bankrate.com to decide if this bank is in the ballpark.

Those are the four most important areas to me. Maybe you have others. Much like dating, to some degree the mix of qualities one looks for in a bank boils down to personal preference. But also like finding a mate, it’s vitally important to become comfortable with the wide range of online and local banks to see what’s available. It’s better to be surprised about how lovely your bank still is many years later, holding your hand at age 80, rather than finding out too late that she’s been in your wallet again, stealing your cash or your breath mints.

Or leaving the cap off the toothpaste. I’m looking at you, Bank of America.