…well, maybe it shops there (sometimes), but if it’s in love with me it brings a coupon.
Let’s talk about a certain Hallmark holiday coming up around the corner, shall we? The one with hearts and roses?
Before I was married, I had a girlfriend who ONLY shopped at name brand places. She was her mother’s daughter, completely. They’d fly to Chicago (nearby) or New York…even Paris once, just to shop. When she came home, she was always the best dressed person in our circle of friends, by a mile. We were in Levis and she was in Nicole Miller.
I’m not sure I was a fit for this woman (well, it appears I wasn’t now, doesn’t it?). I am comfortable feeling comfortable. I’m not ripped jeans and NASCAR tee-shirt comfortable, but I’m realistic. I have bigger goals for my money, and fashion wasn’t important enough to justify the cost….
I wasn’t worried about my wallet. I was worried about all the cool stuff I really wanted that I wouldn’t be able to have. I value a nice (but moderately priced) home, great vacations, and education (…and for me, it’s education for education’s sake. I dig learning new stuff.) While I certainly had to look the part as a financial advisor, there was no way I was buying a $2,000 suit. Now, I work from home. Does it matter which designer I wear? Hardly.
An important lesson my richest clients taught me (the ones who were completely in love with their spouse or significant other and who never appeared rich, but who went on the world’s COOLEST vacations), was that looking rich and being rich are two totally different things. Also, these people didn’t love their mates because of the amount of money they brought to the table, or if they were wearing THAT designer’s clothing. They were there for each other. Valentines Day around my richest clients? It was nearly always completely ignored.
I’m not a fan of Valentines Day in a bah, humbug, kind of way. I’m not a fan because love doesn’t shop at those high end stores. It doesn’t have a price tag. Yet, walk into any mall in the world and you’re likely to see a display with the line, “Show her how much you care.”
I care by:
– Spending time.
– Being thoughtful by getting my head out of my work and talking about her.
– Making dinner for us (not just that day, but ANY day).
– Handling her half of the daily chores.
– One of my special (and admittedly not very good) massages.
– Talking about the big goals we really want with our money.
Save your money for big experiences and goals. Don’t be distracted by a Hallmark holiday and baubles.
The right gift at the right price for Valentines Day? Don’t put a pricetag on it at all and I think you’ll both be happier.
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